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Send me your experience, question or piece to findomhelp@yahoo.com and I might post it if I like it. Also, include any links or photos you would like to include.

Short tip - Publicly acknowledge those who have done good not those who have done bad

I see several posts from dommes about some random guy who wasted their time. I don't believe in that. Yes, we should be aware of people who are time wasters and the usernames they use so we can be aware if they ever approach us. I think that should be in a private post where only dommes can see it. It would bring too much unwanted negative attention. The time wasters will get off on that. I rather see the positive posts about those who have done what they are supposed to and posts about getting a lot of money. That will bring more positive attention. They get off of seeing posts from dommes about how they wasted their time. I know I would have if I saw post about how I wasted your time. I would want to see how many post I can get from different people. Let's see more positive post and you will get more positive attention from those who will not waste your time. I definitely do not want to attract the negative attention. I remember I made a post about someone who wasted my time and I got nothing but time wasters trying to contact me after that post.

Short Tip #1

Do not copy other's work and claim it as your own. Many new dommes think they can find the easy way of creating a profile by finding a top dommes profile and copy it or copy their persona. Other dommes think they can copy a top domme in order to be successful just like them. NO! This will not work. Subs will find this and know you are not being you and let the domme know. You will be blacklisted. You do not want to start out that way. The sub wants to get to know YOU! The domme was successful because she of her creativity. Find something and make it your own. Be an innovator.

Getting started

You are just in the scene and you don't know where to start and how to get yourself out there. There is one step that you need to do before you get started.

First advice is to do your research. You are doing well so far if you found this blog. Research financial domination through blogs, websites, etc for a few months before entering the scene. Studying financial domination is a good way to learn. Read about subs and dommes opinions about financial domination. Get into the subs mind and get to know what they like.

The best way to get started to to learn about bdsm, fetish, psychology, sociology, s/m, humiliation. Financial Domination is a fetish. You must know about fetishes before you can know about financial domination. Financial Domination is the ultimate form of servitude. They are relinquishing all of their will, mind and body to you. You will need to have the experience of being worshiped and served if you really want to experience financial domination.

You know who really reaps the true benefits of financial domination? Those who are truly into the fetish. It's something that you get or don't. It's one of the most extreme fetishes. Financial Domination can be a fetish alone, but it's more of sugarbaby/sugardaddy relationship: especially if you don't know what you're doing. The research and learning will be worth it for both you and your sub if you truly know what Financial Domination is and you truly experience. It's a real high that I can never get tired of.

Patience is the biggest key. You must have it or you will lose yourself and will never succeed.

Profile: Letting them get to know you part. What would you like to reveal about yourself when they first see you?

Below is a few pointers and questions you should ask yourself as you are creating the profile to introduce yourself.

Photos: Vanilla and some teasing photos. Be sure to look at the photos to make sure that there is no mess or something in the background that you don't want them to see

Getting started on your profile.

Tell them about yourself:

what kind of domme are you (sadistic? Sensual? Both?)

what are you into: fetishes

what are your limits?

your experience

why do you like financial domination? Why did you decide to "manipulate losers"

What are your criteria for serving you? What do you expect from the relationship

your stats

What do you expect?

What should they not do when approaching you: Yes this is necessary

Are you princess, goddess, mistress, Queen, etc. ( you will see what I mean when you're researching)

Initial Tribute: Do you expect them to tribute you before contact. I would

In addition, you might want to put some kind of task or directions for your slaves to do before contacting to make sure they are serious in serving you.

Your first slave contact: Get to know them. Know there limits and know their true limits. Get to know their fetishes: tease them with it, get inside their mind and seduce them (not right away). Make the first conversation no more than 30 minutes especially if they don't tribute. See if you have common interest. Do not accept them right away. Let them work for it. Plus, you might not be compatible.

Also, do not use your vanilla email. Make a separate email for Financial Domination for anything Fetish related and don't have that email connected to your personal email in any way.



Now you have their attention and you are ready to do your first session with them. I get several questions asking how to get started with a session. It's all about getting to know them.

 

Getting started and getting to know your slave (above) 

Safety

First, you need to think about safety before becoming an online Financial Domme. There is a lot to consider before you step your feet in the water, but safety is one of the first things you should consider.

First, I am going to say this before I give any pointers. This is not a get rich quick scheme. If you're in this just for that than you will lose your time and gain no money. You cannot be a financial domme just sitting here saying "gimme, gimme, gimme because I am a princess and I deserve it." I am sorry but it doesn't work that way. I am not trying to create an insta domme. I am trying to guide you a little bit to help you take the first step. Many girls learn about it and sign up a few seconds later creating and think that the money will come crawling to them. You will look like an idiot and will have to work hard to prove that you are truly in it for the right reason. In addition, the subs will see that and take advantage of you. These guides are only for those who are truly interested in the fetish.

You will want to hide your real identity and make sure it's impossible to find out who you are. A lot of young girls enter and they use their real name or real address in their wishlist, bio, alias, etc. Do not give out any information that would be able to be used to find you. Even top dommes who have been around for a long time are easy to find. I have found a few. No, I am not going to say who and what is is. I am not here to expose anyone.

The first thing you need to do is create a p.o box. Yes, get a p.o box in the next town, if possible. You need to have this if your going to have a wishlist. Some third parties outside of Amazon share your address (for both the sub and domme). This is a warning to both.

Paypal doesn't accept adult transactions, but I know new people who enter the scene will use it anyway so I will say this: Use a business account so you can have a business name and do not use your real name and address. I strongly suggest you to use Alertpay, Greendot, Kinkbomb, Clipvia or Niteflirt as top tribute opportunities. Alertpay is same as Paypal: Use business account: It's free! In addition, it's anonymous for both. Also, be aware of western union: you will have to use your real name.

So, you already know you might want to be a domme and afraid of people finding out your true identity? Create a fake real personality. Don't tie that with your domme account, but leave hints to that fake real person accidentally on purpose. You're confused? Create a mylife, myspace, classmates, twitter, etc with your real pictures but under a made up name. Have some picture of you partying. Have you or are you going to use some regular photos in your Domme profiles? Put those in your fake real profile. They will find your fake real profile easily if they decide to find you and they will stop at that. I know some might disagree with this, but trust me: former subs might have a grudge or crazy stalkers. A few dommes have been a victim to this. You do not want this to happen to you. I can already hear a few dommes ask WTF is she thinking. I am not helping them create fake content dommes. Many create fake profiles because they don't want people to find them out. In addition, it will be easier to make it believable that someone else is using your photos if a friend or family member happen to stumble upon your financial domination personality.

Photos

Go to tineye.com when and check to see if a photo you are using will connect you with your real myspace, facebook, twitter, etc before using it in your domme profile.

Search Engines

Try to make your real name and personable unable to find through search engines. Never know when your real name will be found. Use only First name initial and last name initial.

There are many things to consider as a post. This is just a starting guide. The rest is for you to find out through experience and research