Blackmail Fantasy

Someone asked me if blackmail is illegal and how they should approach the fetish. 

First, blackmail is illegal. Second, do not use blackmail as a punishment. 

Don't let anyone tell you otherwise. There have been cases where people have been in legal trouble because their sub decided to go to turn their domme in the authorities for blackmail or even using the card information given to them. Crossing that line between fantasy and reality is a problem when the reality ruins lives. 

To my second point, those that want to be blackmailed as a punishes are not the kind of subs that you want. You will be rewarding bad behavior. That is a red flag if they give the vibe. Set your boundaries right away. Again, do not reward bad behavior. The best thing to do is block them. Do not allow yourself to waste your energy on that behavior. It’s best not to encourage or entertain this behavior.

Many subs have ruined the fetish for both the sub and domme. Do your research and make sure that the sub who approaches you is legit before jumping in this fetish because their are major legal repercussions to this fetish. A slave who contacts you and says "blackmail me please" as his first sentence is definitely a "wanker" and should be ignored.

What you should not do

1. Hack them 
2. Use an or else kind of language 
3. Use their card without permission 
4. Threaten them
5. Reach out to their friends and family to expose them

Ask yourself this question before acting: is this illegal or can I go to jail for doing this? The financial domination fantasy is popular because it’s the realest form of online domination. The blackmail fantasy should be different so no real lives will be ruined from either end. Use your creativity to make it feel as real as possible.

Edit: blackmail  should be consensual on both sides and is best when practiced as a fantasy. It should not be used as a punishment due to legal issues also it would attract the wrong kind of blackmail slave that will not pay just to be blackmail. Think about how you could ignite the thrill of blackmail through shame and a scenario you can make them feel ashamed if their family, friends and work were to discover their little secrets. Let them go Once they try to get blackmailed by breaking the rules. 

What do they like most about the blackmail fantasy? The feeling of being ashamed of their fantasies by those closest to them finding out. There are ways you can ignite that feeling that excites them without actually threatening them. Participate in some activities and give them assignments that is sure to excite them. Create the fantasy without crossing the line between reality and fantasy. 

This PTV will give some precautions to take and what steps you should take before entering this fetish. For example, know their limits so you don't push him past his/her limits. Most people who got into trouble with blackmail is because they went too far and went past their limits. Please know their limits and respect it.

Disclaimer: Blackmail IS illegal. What slaves like about blackmail is the loss of control and power. They want to feel trapped and overpower and they feel like blackmail is the only way to feel that way. Don't jump into blackmail if you don't know what you're doing and you're new. Blackmail is a federal crime. There can be serious consequences if things go wrong. Many slaves have recently enjoyed luring dommes into blackmail and turning around and turning them into authorities. Some slaves are actually into blackmail in the beginning but they change their mind or the domme goes too far. Just remember your limits and your slaves limits, trust your instincts and know the slave before decide to participate in blackmail with him. Use your best judgement

 I am not a lawyer and cannot give legal advice or tips. Act with common sense.

Few things on safety

Many young girls enter the scene forgetting the possible safety repercussions of being an online financial dominatrix. Yes,  your safety can be at risk if you're not cautious or smart. There are many psychos on the internet. You have to be careful whenever dealing with strangers online even if you're a badass Dominatrix. I am going to talk about safety precautions you should take when it comes to safety.

Amazon Wishlist

The other day I got a question about amazon wishlists. This person didn't realize that a person can receive the shipping adress once they purchase something on amazon through third party shipping stores on amazon. Look at anyone's wishlist and you can see that Amazon does reveal the City, State and the recipient. First, you need to make sure that you have the "third party shipping option" unchecked when you edit the profile of your wishlist. Have your items shipped to a P.O box. It's more private than sending it to your home address even though the person can still wait by the post office to see you come and get your package. It's very unlikely. A better option is to accept E cards sent straight to your email. Your email address is the only information that they will have. You should have a separate email just for financial domination.

There are a few payment methods you shouldn't accept or only accept if you truly trust the person.

• Paypal- First, They DO NOT accept adult transactions. They haven't for a long time. Your personal information is easily available through this method. Try sending/receiving payment with a friend and family to see what information they have available. Too personal. I advise you to have a business account if you plan on using this with any stranger online: adult transaction or regular transaction.
• Western Untion: they need your real first and last name and city and state
• Bank transfer: ONLY with people you truly trust. Financial Slaves aren't USUALLY trustworthy

What are the best payment methods:

• Niteflirt: It's anonymous and it's through a trust third party store
• Clipstores: Clips4sale, Kinkbomb and other clipstores have added the tribute function in clip stores.
• E cards: Many stores have the e card option and all they need is your email

The above is only popular one's that I can think of at the moment. I will update this when I find more information and with more questions. Remember be safe and smart. Do you research before beginning. Not everyone can be successful in this. This isn't a get rich quick scheme. It's an actual fetish that many enjoy and I find that you can truly enjoy this fetish if you are genuinely interested and remain safe.

Short Tip: keeping a slave interested

One of the main questions people ask is how do they keep a slave. They get them interested, get their first tribute, and their first session and never hear from them again because they don't know how to keep them interested. One of the main problems is that you have to get know your slave. Not every slave is the same so the same method will work for every slave. That's why you have to get to know their interests. Have a slave application where they can buy via niteflirt, or even have it available for free publicly, and make them fill it out. Ask whatever questions you find fit in order to get to know your slave. I.E: their fetishes, limits, etc. The first few minutes will be getting a feel for the slave and you will find out what works. It wouldn't be a bad idea to have them write a journal entry for you to read so you will find out how you did.

"Why buy the milk when you can have the cow for free?" I know many of you, if not all, have heard this saying before. Why would they want to come back if you have given them everything they want. Don't give them a quick release if you want them to come back. They will enjoy the tease and they will come back for more and MORE!

That's it for my short tip. It's only a small amount. I might go further in one of my new payment buttons. This was one of my frequent asked questions so I decided to write about it today. I am not ignoring you when you ask questions I just get asked so many questions daily so I tried to make the most asked questions available. Ask anything so I know what I need to write about next.

A little advice for new slaves

Everyday there are a handful of new dommes entering the scene lost and not knowing what they should do. There are also less than half of that amount of new slaves who just hear about the financial domination fetish and are completely lost as well. They don't know what they should do. They are not sure how to get the domme's attention. Just like new dommes, new subs often make the wrong move and get labeled as a "time waster" or "wanker" and some genuinely want to please a domme. Some end up getting scared away and don't return. Some actually have potential to be a good slave. They just need to be shown the right direction. 

And there are those that are truly wankers and don't deserve the time of the day of any domme. There is this domino effect in financial domination. A new domme get her time wasted or screwed over by a wanker and in return she decides it's not worth trying to be a good domme. She then decides to screw over every slave that she comes in contact with. Those slaves are discouraged and out of revenge on every other domme they decide it's not worth being a good slave and waste the next "innocent" domme's time and the pattern continues.

I am getting a little ahead of myself. This blog post is about how a sub should get a domme's attention. I am going to give to pointers on what is expect of a sub in financial domination. You see a domme's website, blog, profile and want to so badly to serve and please her but you don't know what you should do first.

First, get to know everything there is to about her without having to contact her. Follow her blogs, follow her on twitter, read her website and rules. Every domme has a set of rules of what they expect from their sub. Every domme is unique in their own way. Find out what rules they have and be sure that you are able to follow them.

"I am not sure if she is the right domme for me." Many subs have that dilemma. Guess what? It's not really the domme's problem and she shouldn't have to prove herself to you. You, my friend, need to prove yourself to her. She has a website the show you what she is about. "How am I going to be sure?" Most dommes these days have clip stores, PTV buttons and blogs that brag about their past sessions. Clips aren't usually that expensive. It's a great investment on both of your time and a great way to find out if she is the right domme.

"How can I get her attention" This is financial domination. The best way to get a financial domme's attention is to send her a tribute. They do like extravagent gifts but don't be afraid if you can't afford them. Small gifts are nice as long as they are constant. Send her a gift from her wish list. Send her a small tribute. Send her an e card to her favorite store. Mix it up a little bit. Let her know that you want to please her that she is a main priority. Make a fan art and write a poem or letter of admiration and send it to her without expecting anything in return.

"How should I contact her" I think you are ready for your introduction after buying her gifts, clips, sending tributes and reading everything that there is to know about her. Some dommes have slave application or contract that they want the slave to fill out. Answer all require questions if they have that. Insert your own paragraph of introduction. Remember, be honest and a gentleman. Think with your head on your shoulders; not the one in your hands.

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