Soviet mistress

Everyone please welcome back our guest blogger Soviet-Mercedes. She is a returning guest and will be a recurring guest. I am excited about this post because it sends a positive message. 

Please send me an email for any inquiries about becoming a guest writer. 

Visit her sites listed at the end of the blog.

Hello My fellow Goddesses!

As many have been asking Me about My work and how to get started, I figured I’ll answer here what I tell them all.

Echoing all these beautiful posts already written here, I can not emphasize this enough:

This is not an easy and get rich quick-kind a thing.

If you think you are going to be an exception of that, I am afraid you will be wasting your precious time.

But onward from here, my main tips would be:

1.      -Understand the fetish that you cater for. Read up on it. Practice. Explore

2.      -Treat this like a business (even if you aren’t one).  The more serious your approach, the more serious your results.

3.      -Be patient! I know it can feel like forever, but in your downtime there are plenty of things to do such as working on you (and your brand), reading up and practicing on your knowledge or technology and even things such as making pictures you can upload later!

4.      -Try not to get stuck in the negative things and setbacks. You will have your time wasted, you will make mistakes and you will wish you had done things differently. That is ok! It is all a part of the process

5.      -Most importantly: do not compare yourself to others; realizing what others show online is glamour and glitter, however most of the top Dominatrix’ have been at it for many years.

Allow yourself to be a beginner

The last thing I have to say is: Good luck and also ENJOY!!!!

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What to do before putting yourself out there?

Stop right there! Not another move! 

There are things that you need to consider before putting yourself out there. There first impression is very important. You want to create a positive everlasting first impression in the financial domination world. It can either break or make you. You need to be prepared before you decide you put yourself out there. You want to be ready. Have everything looking good. It's important if you want to maximize your profits.

Before putting yourself out there

This is a guide on what you need from the beginning and prepare so you can maximize your profits.

It's imperative that you are prepared. You have all the content that's needed. You do not want to present a blank page. You want to have your whole story out there. Have a lot of content out there so you can make more money and have more stuff to sell from the beginning.

What do the subs like about financial domination?

Let's all be honest with ourselves for just one minute. What excites us, the domme, about Financial Domination? It's the money and gifts. Receiving money from our subs as a form of appreciation or a nice little surprise gift is always a great bonus! The bigger the money the better...right? It's not just the money for me. It's about what the money represents to me. It represents their sacrifice! It's about their total submission and servitude! The sacrifice of money turns me on because of the symbolism of it.

Now take all of that thrill and extra symbolism away...BOOM! The thrill is gone. It means nothing to me. There is no relationship between me and the sub. I will get bored. Yes, the money is great but I always want submission behind the money.

We have looked at the dommes perspective of the relationship. Now let's look at the slave's perspective and what makes them tick.

The sub is in it because of the thrill as well. It's a mutually beneficial relationship. They are in sub space. A certain phrase, image or action put them in sub space and anything can bring them out of it. When they are in sub space, they are more open to you as a domme and are more desperate to go deeper in sub space.

Make them beg to pay Niteflirt PTV
 - Get them in sub space

What turns them on about financial domination? It's about the power exchange. They want a strong, confident woman that has the power and that can easily destroy them or manipulate them. Being confident is definitely not being desperate and begging for money.

What do subs desire? It's about confidence! You don't have it? Get it or you will not be successful! Start off by reading my PTV "Creating your inner goddess" Confidence illuminates your beauty.

Why Money? The ultimate submission is what they desire. They want to sacrifice for their goddess and worship them. Their goddess to them is unattainable. They want them to control them and they want it to feel as real as possible. Sacrificing their money is real to them and it's real to you as well. They love to see what you are using their money on so they can know how they affected their life in a positive manner. It's the closest they will get to you.

They might even want to go deeper and have you control their finances and keep track of their spending habits and make them cut down on their luxuries.

It's about a connection to them based on what they are currently seeking. Don't think that any sub that has spent a lot on someone will automatically spend on you. They have reached a connection and she has worked really hard to get him into her sub space. Check Out my Payment button on objectifying and isolating them as an example.

It's also about sex! Sex sells. They love the sexualization of Financial Domination. Sex and money go great together. They little phrases or images that turns them on. Each slave is different but the main reason they are into financial domination is because it turns them on. The act of ultimate sacrifice turns them on. It's starts with that one moment at the strip club and they want more.

The relationship. It's about the connection. They want to build a long term relationship...not all. Some have felt this connection and are willing to build a relationship. This will be the best relationship that they have ever experience. Keeping your slave Niteflirt PTV talks about building relationship and keeping a rapport.

Introducing Soviet Mercedes

I have a great surprise for my readers. I have been talking about my point of view in financial Domination. Today, I would like to share someone else's point of view. I hope to share more of her very soon! I wanted to try something new and I hope you enjoy this! Please, email me at findomhelp@yahoo.com if you would like to submit your piece (Point of View, experience, questions). 

Without further ado...I introduce to you Soviet Mercedes!

My name is Soviet Mercedes. 

Born and raised in East Europe, traveled and lived all over the world. Currently living in Amsterdam, West Europe.

Being a full time Dominatrix with over 10 years of experience and having always been a bit sadistic and eager to make men work for me, I naturally rolled into the world of BDSM.

Now mind you, back in the days here in west Europe the online scene wasn’t as big as it was now. I have seen a huge growth when it comes to the online community and scene.

Starting off mostly with Real Life sessions in a physical Dungeon I slowly learned and experimented more and more with the psychology part of Power Exchange.

Very soon (and naturally) you find yourself in digital Power Exchange play, on an online platform, where distance becomes irrelevant. 

Before continuing I want to elaborate that there is a difference between being paid for my services and engaging in Financial Domination. Even though I will ALWAYS be paid for spending time on/with another, Financial Domination goes much further for me. 

Living and preaching Female Supremacy, I expect my followers and slaves to truly humble themselves and submit to a Higher Power (Me). Engaging in selfless acts, like sending Tributes and (Con)tributing to My life. Living in the world that we live in Power is Money. And Money means resources.. Since one can not GIVE me health, freedom or resources, they will have to contribute by handing me the means so *I* can get those myself, in a way that I see fit.

These can be as big ($2.000) or as small ($5) as fit to the individual. Someone who is a millionaire will not care about 5 dollars, therefor it will not feel as a sacrifice NOR as giving away Power.

However all the forms of currency are welcome and adding up in my life.

Money is a weird thing and it has a almost taboo-controversy attached to it.

I feel Financial Domination *can* be highly misunderstood, since it’s not a static thing but has branches spreading wide into other fetishes too. But it all comes down to Power.

Currently I am mostly expanding my online presence, and (forever) learning in translating my energy and my being into visuals and words. NiteFlirt is my biggest source of income, and I truly love the variety of clients and slaves that are on there.

Hoping we reach a day where everyone get paid for their time, I can only advice (for new-comers) to truly invest time into BDSM-dynamics and fetishes, in order to properly learn. This may cost some time, but in the end it will all be worth it and you’ll come out as an amazing Goddess, as I am still learning and expanding my knowledge myself too!

Love,

Soviet Mercedes

Visit her sites dominatrixsovietmercedes.com

Her Tribute Page FyouPayme.com

Becoming successful

What makes a new domme successful? What changes someone to become a newbie to a pro or from unsuccessful to top ranking? What are the attributes that make them shine above the rest? What do they do that you aren't doing?

I know we all want to be the best and earn as much as we can without wasting our time. I know our time is precious. There are some "hidden secrets" That these more successful girls know that you aren't aware of

There are a lot of failures and very few triumphs for most of us. They have some kind of advantage over you because they have qualities of a successful Financial Domination Goddess, princess, Mistress or whatever your title is. Yes, there are qualities that can make you successful. You can obtain them if you truly desire it.

My blog has a lot of tips on time management and they are very informational because we never want to waste our time trying to succeed if it isn't working. Time Management skills is imperative to gain a return on investment. 

Make yourself known. You are not going to attract anyone if you do not put yourself out there and create a presence. 

This PTV has tips on what qualities the successful Dommes have, the most important tip and how to apply it

My creating your inner goddess series has some great information to create your inner goddess and glow within

Get them to pay for your trip

Who doesn't love a free luxurious trip paid for by someone who worships you? Wouldn't that be nice? I have a few suggestions on how to get them to spend on your trip.

 

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Maximize on the foot fetish

Feet is a main fetish in the financial domination community. You will see a lot of slaves are into feet. I have made most of my clip profits from foot fetish clips and pictures. I have so many shoes from those who love to spoil my feet and guys who pay for my pedicure. I have a few tips on you can maximize your profits in Financial Domination using the foot fetish.

 

The foot fetish can bring in a lot of loyal customers.

You can also bring in different types of prospective buyers!

Bringing out your inner goddess

The main thing you need is confidence is to be successful. Your strength Dominance come from confidence. Confidence is beautiful and outshines all. You see these people who are glowing within. It's because they have confidence. You cannot win without confidence. Confidence is something that can be developed. It pulls your inner strength, your inner goddess, out and shines through. You can see who is confident in their photos, mannerism and in their videos. Let your light shine. I am here to help you with your confidence. This one will be a little away from financial domination but more towards personal development.

"We are going to bring out your inner alpha and build your up stronger so you can be in total and complete control" 

"Your mindset can determine your ability to win or lose. Which one is it going to be?"

I, myself, believe anyone can be successful in Financial Domination if they have the right mindset. It takes practice to build this mindset.

Bring out your inner goddess!

Financial Domination is personal

Making the most from your personal Slaves

"Know what makes them Tick. Get in their head and use that to your advantage. What make them weak? Use those triggers. You can do this for your slaves that are more on a personal level because it is personal with them. You know this"

Recognize the most subservient slaves that cater to your whim and you will start to attract those kind of slaves. Recognize the low level time wasters and you will waste your time. They make the most sacrifice for your pleasure. 

What's so sexy about Financial domination?

It's the total control of having total control or giving total control. It's about complete and total submission and giving it away. Financial Domination always existed even though it wasn't called that. It's so easy to get lost in the world. It's about real sacrifice. Once you enter a real relationship, you will be able to feel a satisfaction from both sides. We all love power. It's very important. These days, Money is what represents real power. Handing over that money is what symbolizes giving up that power. It's really hard to do but it is also sexually thrilling. It's what's so exciting the most. Seeing your power grow as someone else relinquishes it over to you and to have complete control of someone else. Not only do you control his money but you control everything else as well: his activities, orgasms and much more. This is what turns me on about Financial Domination...it's all about POWER! Total and Complete control! And them submitting fully to your will. It's a thrill and I LOVE IT!

Using tease and denial to get in his mind

"Seduce him with what he desires more and lure him into the edge. What does he desire the most? What makes him weak? Use his weakness to your advantage"



Figure out what makes him tick. Get into his mind and make him fully submit to him. The best way to control his finances is to control his orgasms. Once you have that control then you are in his mind and he is yours for the taking. They are so easily manipulated when they are horny. That is why the art of tease and denial is a important art to learn. I have input a scenario in this Niteflirt Pay to View so you can see it play out in action.

Top few fetishes you will encounter in financial domination

In financial domination, you will encounter many fetishes. It is good to research in the fetishes and become knowledgeable about each one before beginning.  Getting to know these fetishes better will help you understand how you can use them to monetize on them better.

I have some summary of some of the popular fetish and how you can monetize on the fetishes in the best way. 

Updates

The $1 deal is over. I extended it longer than I stated. I will do this at the beginning of each year. The prices are up to $2 dollars. I am happy that I am able to help new people who are curious about Financial Domination so they can get an understanding of what it is before they jump in and make sure they are being safe when they are practicing instead of making assumptions and being unsafe. Please read this post if you are a first time reader to get some tips on safety. Those who have advice to add to this post let me know and I will give you credit. The best place to reach me is through niteflirt.

I was thinking about have a guest advice column to add more content. This blog is advice from my own experience but I know everyone has different experiences and advice to offer. I will have a new guest blogger that I will feature and you can promote yourself as well. I will give you credit and you can add any links you like. I will add your post just the way you write it so make sure you write the way you want viewers to see.

It's takes hard work to get started

First, I would like to say that my email is currently unavailable and I am working on that. You can contact me through my niteflirt in the mean time. The only thing with niteflirt is I cannot send you links to outside sources or their competition. It is against their terms. I can help you with niteflirt through there. 

I have been asked to explain what they need to do to get started and how long it takes to get yourself out there. It is hard work. It is not easy money fly in your lap work. You have to be able to put in hours a day in order to get yourself noticed. Okay, your noticed...what do you have for them? How can you separate yourself from your competition. Yes, I say competition even I feel like we are like sisters. Please do not ever get catty when you started. So I am going to explain to you the hard work.

First, you have to have content before you put yourself out there. You have to brainstorm on the outfits, pictures, clips, blogs and sites. You want to make sure you have rich content. Creating and editing these contents takes hours for me. I recommend you create the content before you think about making your presence. You have to think about what you are going to say. You have to design your content and your website or find a designer. I like to make an animated graphics for my clips. You have create payment buttons, banner to use for advertisement in different sizes and introduction pages. It takes me an hour to write a blog. I signed up for many fetish sites and clip site in order to create a more following. Every person uses different sites and you can reach out to more people doing that.

The fun part was creating wish list and a tribute page to let them know how they can spoil me. You really want to make this page pop

I also took time to create rules, introductions, slave application, etc. I have it available where those who are interested know what they need to do in order to get my attention before they approach me. Those who don't follow will not get my attention.

Now you have to work on the social media marketing and decide which sites you want to market your sites and contact every single one of them. They would want your put their banner on their site so you need put your banner their. You also have to sign up for different social media platform and participate in order to get noticed. Think of good keywords to use for what you are trying to attract.

I spend a lot on social media sites to put myself out there when I have a new clip, journal, payment button.

Creating PTVs take a while because I am working on creating an interaction and making a fun game with each PTV and putting photos in them and keep them playing and paying. Brainstorming each payment button takes a long time as well because I create a few for each niteflirt game.

So how long do I put in my work a day? I spend at least three hours making clips, taking photos, writing journals, tweeting, updating my site, uploading my clips to different platforms, creating graphics for my clips and marketing myself. The beginning part was the most time consuming but I found it enjoyable. Do you think you can put this much time in becoming successful?

I spend over two hours creating new content, an hour editing it, thirty  minutes writing descriptions, two hours putting all together, advertising and creating teasers. This is all in a days of work. The rest of the week is about interaction and brainstorming for the new week.

Short tip - Publicly acknowledge those who have done good not those who have done bad

I see several posts from dommes about some random guy who wasted their time. I don't believe in that. Yes, we should be aware of people who are time wasters and the usernames they use so we can be aware if they ever approach us. I think that should be in a private post where only dommes can see it. It would bring too much unwanted negative attention. The time wasters will get off on that. I rather see the positive posts about those who have done what they are supposed to and posts about getting a lot of money. That will bring more positive attention. They get off of seeing posts from dommes about how they wasted their time. I know I would have if I saw post about how I wasted your time. I would want to see how many post I can get from different people. Let's see more positive post and you will get more positive attention from those who will not waste your time. I definitely do not want to attract the negative attention. I remember I made a post about someone who wasted my time and I got nothing but time wasters trying to contact me after that post.

Advice for subs

I got an email asking for advice for subs. I haven't forgot about you. I have created a PTV based on many frequently asked questions. I am also creating a sub corner where I will have resources for you. More to come for you.

 
 
I understand how hard it can be to find the right one to serve. It's harder to get her attention than finding her. You met the girl of your dreams and want to serve her but you do not want to disappoint her. First impressions are very important and they will stick. She will remember your first interaction so you want to make it great and everlasting. 

How to get the most money of each slave?

Have you been getting money slaves but they have been spending so little? Do you want to learn how to hook them in and get them to spend a lot with you? Are you envious of the girls that get the big spenders? Some just don't have the money but other do. It doesn't come easy to them. They have mastered the art of seduction, financial domination and mind fuckery. It's an art to do this. Some come naturally while others need to master this art.

Short tip: be careful what you put out there

I have a few girls email me asking if people from school, work and family members/friends would be able to find their financial domination page. The answer is that it's a big possibility. Don't put what you don't want people to find. It's a possibility that it can haunt you one day. It could still be out there even if you delete it. Think before you put things like videos or photos out there. It's also a big privacy issue as well. You can have fun with costumes or disguises if you feel like you must or crop out your head if you really feel like you need to. There is nothing stopping your customers from posting your photos and videos that you sell on the internet for everyone to see on various vanilla sites. There the DMCA law but it could be too late even if you get it taken down because someone could have seen it or someone might saved it and posted it. It's really hard to find all photos of you around the internet.

Just think about what you put out there. Think if people would be able to recognize you easily. Is this what you really want the world to see? Many girls post photos and videos on their site where they are recognizable and they freak out when someone recognizes them. Just think about common safety and privacy rules and double check your public photos and videos if it's what you really want to see. Don't let people finding out discourage you. Just be extra cautious and make wise decisions.

Good luck

My first mistake

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On my last blog I stated I was thinking about selling extensive advice on Niteflirt. First, I wanted to make sure I wouldn't be wasting my time because I will be taking my time and work really hard on the advice.

In addition, I thought it would be nice just to have more than one input than just mine. I am thinking every Friday, Saturday OR Sunday I will have a weekly column where one girl can ask advice and share their experience or ask for input so you can hear advice from more than one girl or even hear advice from a sub's perspective if they wish to join in on the comments. You can be anonymous. For example, you can share your experience where it didn't go as you planned and ask for advice.

I will also be sharing mistakes I have made when I first started. Yes, I used to be a newbie and I made many mistakes. My first mistake was believing everything the sub had to say. "Wankers," as most dommes would call them, would lie just to get a quick wank and not follow through on what they said they would. I didn't get my first wanker experience until after a month of being a domme. I learned my lesson quickly and moved on. Don't let them fool you. There are steps you can take to prevent wankers. I will talk about that on another blog.

I also wanted to thank you for your support and I hope to help empower you in your journey of being a strong, independent woman.

Been Busy

I had a few unexpected personal problems and have received more emails that I have expected to receive. It seems like there are a lot of people who just are hearing about this fetish and want to know more. My main purpose of this blog is to help those are just entering know the basics and help guide a few step by step. Also, my purpose to educate the newbies and make them aware that this isn't a get quick rich scheme so they don't start the fetish with that assumption and don't start financial domination if that's all they want. I am trying to help everyone and reply to everyone. Those who I told that I will create graphics for I will. Email me (you know who you are). This blog is to help with basics. I was thinking about writing more some advice in more detail and sell them on Niteflirt as PTV's. They will be about $1-5 each. What do you think about that? I will still continue to blog and give basic free advice. Want to suggest a topic for my next blog? Email me your suggestion. I would prefer to give advice on something that is needed. Again, sorry if I miss your email my inbox is full and I am trying to reply to all or I will just give a blog advice if it's a frequently asked question.